UFO Followup #2

LeahDay

Leah Day has been teaching online since 2009. She's the creator of the Free Motion Quilting Project, a blog filled with thousands of quilting tutorial videos. Leah has written several books including 365 Free Motion Quilting Designs, Explore Walking Foot Quilting with Leah Day, and Mally the Maker and the Queen in the Quilt.

2 Responses

  1. Leah,
    Your comment about "other people's" projects really hit home with me. I have just one of these projects left …a huge 100×92 fortrel quilt top that someone's now departed great aunt didn't finish and would I please do it ….I am so not able to say no. This is nothing that I would ever choose and the fabric and colours are nothing I would choose. If this was my great aunt I would have no qualms about ditching it. The good part is I have no personal UFO's. I am so happy to get to work with things of my choice I finish them.

  2. Linda says:

    Donna, I just had to chime in here, and take this with a grain of salt, as it comes from my experience and not necessarily yours. The lesson here may be learning to say no. And the trouble is, if you keep telling yourself you're not *able* to say no, then you never will say it–even when you desperately need to. On the other hand, might there be some sort of payoff for not saying no? Here's what I mean by that–I used to be afraid that no one would think I was a good person if I said no (payoff = everyone thinking I was a good person). I eventually realized that the only people who thought that (including my husband) were folks who wanted me to do what THEY wanted me to do, for their *own* benefit–and if I didn't do it, they tried to make me feel guilty! It had *nothing* to do with me being a good person…just an obedient person. Learning to say no to these folks was hard–really hard–but I'm so glad I finally did. And let's face it, it's really difficult to get enthused about a project you feel pressured (guilted and manipulated) into doing.

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